Rediscovering Love and Intimacy

Wendy started counseling with me because Terence, her husband of 14 years, had just expressed to her that he wanted to end their relationship. Wendy, terrified of being alone, was panicked. Within a few minutes of speaking with her in a phone session, I understood exactly the underlying cause of their relationship problems. Wendy, coming […]

Anniversary Blues

Jamie and Kurt are a sweet, successful couple in their early thirties. In spite of loving each other deeply, they often find themselves in conflict over seemingly minor issues, as most couples do. Recently, just one week before their wedding anniversary, they had a particularly hurtful argument. Jamie had expressed her unhappiness about Kurt’s busy […]

Can This Relationship Be Helped?

I have been counseling couples for 35 years. Quite often individuals come in for help wondering if it is really possible to save or improve their relationship. Perhaps their partner is totally uninterested in working on the relationship. Perhaps their partner is an alcoholic or drug addict. What are their chances of saving their relationship? […]

Relationship Advice for Women – Beyond the Happy Ending – Part 2 The Not-the-Same Syndrome

How often do we complain that our man isn’t romantic enough or he doesn’t treat you like he did when you first started dating? Come on, admit it, we do this a lot. The way I see it, there are two sides to this. Side one, he really has changed and he isn’t romantic enough […]

Coping with Your Difficulties in Yourself

Ashleigh Brillant once said: “Coping with difficult people is always a problem, particularly if the difficult person happens to be yourself.” Can you identify with this statement? Often, when things are not going well, we wonder what the problem is. Often we are the problem. We become our own worst enemy. Are you a perfectionist? […]

7 Ways To Improve Your Relationship

Good relationships don’t just happen. I’ve heard many of my clients state that, “If I have to work at it, then it’s not the right relationship.” This is not a true statement, any more than it’s true that you don’t have to work at good physical health through exercise, eating well, and stress reduction. I’ve […]

He Said, She Heard: Communication Meltdown within Relationship

It starts young, as babies. We learn communication from our parents starting with single words — mama, dada, we add adjectives, big boy, nice kitty. And even though we learn, and speak, the same language — English, French, German — we also learn sub-languages, languages that may differ so greatly we clog communication as if […]