“Men are all the same. Stop looking for Prince Charming, Dreamer!”
“We just can’t commit to one person! I Loooove Women!”
“I can’t help it! Women want me!”
“I almost went with this co-worker of mine years ago, and I feel some kind of regret today that I haven’t done it…”
“Caroline, I have an active sex life with my girlfriend. I look around because of the thrill of the chase!!!”
I hear this all the time… I am sure that you have heard this once also. It is frightening. Maybe my actual boyfriend has been unfaithful and I just don’t know about it or I didn’t see the signs… or didn’t want to see the signs.
But why is it that so many men jump the fence? Is it because of an unsatisfying sex life? Or is it for that quest of lost Infatuation? Is it by perversion?
Another one of my friend thinks that I am too hard when I say that “Men” are “The” unfaithful ones because she says that it also takes another woman at the other end. She has a point. However, I observed that it usually occurs with a single women longing for loving and not sure if she really wants to leave her fabulous single life to settle down in a “white bread” relationship.
So, what is it then?
Yes, there are those Men who are just afraid of commitment. The only way that they reassure themselves that they still have that “Freedom” or “Masculinity” is by sleeping with someone else. Period. This has nothing to do with the level of quality of the relationship that they are currently involved in. Some need a higher dose of “Freedom” then others. Anyhow, who wants to be with a man who always is looking to prove to himself that he is “Free” or he is indeed a “Man”?
Also, there is the element of “opportunities”. Statistics have proved that the more the person is beautiful, in the standard of a community, the more the incidence of being unfaithful is increased.
Does it mean that we should only date Ugly people to reassure our insecurities?
I think not. Be aware that if you find someone beautiful, there are at least 15 other people out there who finds your mate attractive, whether he or she has a die hard body or just with a “few pounds to lose.” Beauty is within the eyes of the beholder.
The infidelity rate is slightly higher towards Women then Men. I was surprised when I read that but it actually does make sense. Women become dissatisfied easily compared to Men. And the dissatisfaction can be much more complex then a man can understand or fulfill. Also, women being part of an essential part of the work force, opportunities are more frequent then when they use to be homemakers.
Selfishness is also another indicator of your level of devotion. Selfishness does not care about the feeling of others and that feeling exits in the present only. It is an immature behavior that we are supposed to have evolved from at the teenage age. Think about it a little bit: when someone is unfaithful, in the moment, that person doesn’t think at all of the consequences or how the partner might feel!
I would say that, in the end, it is the commitment and the level of respect for yourself and your partner that determines if there will be less chances of infidelity within your relationship. With openness and caring of the feelings of your partner, you will be able not to be tempted by that chick at work, or that overly nice and somewhat handsome colleague at work.
So look for that person with a noble heart, a high level of maturity, who demonstrates admiration, respect and generosity towards you. This is a clear indication of a healthy shield towards temptation.
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